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How to write wedding vows and speeches

Start with structure, not poetry. For vows: past, promise, future. For speeches: thanks, story, toast. Draft two weeks out, read aloud once, and cut anything that only works on a screen. Keep vows private if you want the day to stay intimate.

Vows: short and true

Aim for one to two minutes spoken. Specific beats generic. Agree tone with your partner (humour vs solemn) so you are not blindsided at the altar.

Speeches: assign and timebox

Decide who speaks and for how long. Give speakers a deadline and a do-not-embarrass boundary. Collect drafts in one place if you want a sanity check.

Invitations and thank-yous

The same drafting habit helps invitation wording and thank-you notes — clear, warm, and short beats ornate.

How Weduler helps

Weduler’s speeches and texts tools help you draft invitations, vows, speeches, and thank-yous, then refine wording. Vows can stay private to you; other pieces can be shared when you want partner feedback.

Draft where the plan already lives

Start a vow or speech draft in your wedding workspace and refine until it sounds like you.

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